I REFUSE to Accept MEDIOCRITY, How About You?
The Need to Set Boundaries for Women of God
My step-son is finishing up his first year of high school. The transition from middle school to high school has been difficult for him as I am sure it is for many children going through this monumental rite of passage.
My husband and I stress to him the importance of using this HS experience as a lesson in life, and how to manuever through it.
We aren’t as concerned about his grades as we are about his thought-process and learning life skills during this critical time in his life.
We assume that when a child turns the wonderful age of 18, they are ready to go out and conquer the world on their own. ONLY if we as parents and mentors, have positioned them for success through the lessons we are teaching them as we guide them through these tumultuous years of personal growth.
Many of the lessons we are going over repeatedly with our son is to not take short-cuts in the work he is doing, because it will always lead to mediocrity. Not only in his grades, but in LIFE.
Whatever it is that we want to achieve, we have to be diligent to make sure that we are giving it everything we’ve got to experience the level of success we are looking to achieve. That means we have to pay attention to the details:
- What is it that we want?
- What will it take to get it?
- What will I need to do, and
- what will I need to give up?
OH yes, there will be something you have to give up, make no mistake about that.
- It could be sleep,
- it could be leisure time with friends (especially those “friends” who don’t have the same ambition to achieve as you do),
- it could be giving up TV, video games or
- hobbies that don’t contribute to your goal.
- It also could be re-evaluating your current life situation to decide if it allows you to pursue that which you want to pursue 100%.
I made the decision to not pursue a full-time job because it would take away from my ability to put 100% into pursuing my passion of writing and impacting other people’s lives in a powerful way. That means I had to DECIDE to give up the luxuries that a full-time job would afford me.
Has it been worth it? Absolutely.
Has it been easy? Not at all!
But the payoff, the reward of giving it my all has been well worth the sacrifices I have made. Only you can decide the level of sacrifice you are willing to make to reach that goal.
So let’s go back to my opening statement; I refuse to accept mediocrity, how about you? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to have what you want, that which is burning in your heart? What’s preventing you from doing that? Is it that you are trying to take short cuts expecting that giving the minimum will get it for you? NEWS FLASH, the minimum will only give you the minimum, giving ALL you’ve got will give you the results you are looking to achieve…nothing else, no shortcuts will get you there.
I speak to people ALL the time, who are miserable about where they are in life; from age 12 all the way up to 80. When I ask that they consider other possibilities to change their situation, I am bombarded with a multitude of excuses,
“well…I would, but…”
That but is usually followed by a “cliff note” version of reasons why they wouldn’t. Incidentally, I say cliff note version because I don’t allow them the time ti infect my space with a barrage of negativity and self-defeating talk. Let me tell you what I tell people ALL the time, “you don’t have a problem, you just have a decision to make, and the decision is whether you will allow circumstances, your past, or other people dictate your level of misery or dissatisfaction.
When you fail to set the boundary in your life that prevents outside circumstances from determining your desired outcome, you open yourself up to attract whatever comes to you, and you have no say so about it other than wallowing in the misery that you have allowed to germinate in the first place.
I know this is hitting pretty hard, but it’s time to stop accepting mediocrity IF it’s not what you want but hear me out, if this is too hard for you, It’s probably because you’re trying to do it on your own….give it to GOD! He said in his work,
“Come to me all who are heavy laden and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)
He also said, “I will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4)
We have an opportunity to change our lives by handing it over to God. But we keep taking short cuts that lead to mediocrity. We can’t short cut the system, and the system is knowing that God is the one who can take us to that place where mediocrity is not an option. Where we can be all that God has called us to be and to do ALL He has called us to do, but we can’t do it without him.
Let’s make the decision to refuse to live in mediocrity and to begin living a life of excellence by giving it all to HIM who will “supply all of our needs according to His riches and glory through Christ Jesus”. (Philippians 4:19)