Boundaries: Are You Ready To Do The Work?

Anyone that has committed to partnering with me in their quest for personal growth will tell you,

“It takes “WORK”!WorkCommitting to growth in your life will require two things of you:

1)      Work

2)      Change

If these two things are not done, you won’t grow.  It’s as simple as that, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

Anyone that has committed to partnering with me will also tell you that the contribution they make in our partnership must be

“purposeful”; intentional, forward moving and active—never standing still.

There must be forward movement no matter how big or how small.  If they are not willing to move, they are merely standing still as in “quicksand”.

work5So, what is work?  Let’s define it.

The dictionary defines “work” (‘werk’) as

The physical or mental effort or activity directed toward the production or accomplishment of something.

Because all collaboration with me requires movement, I would like to share the definition as the verb:

To exert one self physically or mentally to do, make or carry out something.  To proceed or progress slowly and laboriously.  To labor (work) is to proceed with great effort.

When we think in terms of the “work” required to establish necessary boundaries in our lives, we know that it will require effort on our part.

WorkAs we go to “work” at anything; be it a job, a chore or a mission, we understand that it will require steps we must take that lead to progression.

The expected outcome will not occur if we haven’t put in the work.

If you don’t “go” to work, you won’t get paid.

If you don’t plant seeds, you won’t have a garden.

Also, the amount of effort put in will manifest in the results.

Little effort yields little crop.

In working with women as they move toward living in their “giftedness” and walking in their God-assigned purpose, I am constantly amazed at the amount of work it requires of each of them to create boundaries in their lives;

Physically – Helps us to decide and communicate who may touch us and under what circumstance.

MentallyThe freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions

EmotionallyHelps us to deal with our emotions and dis-engage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others, and

SpirituallyHelps us to distinguish God’s will from our own

It’s not until these boundaries are established in each of these areas, that they are able to live according to the life that God has designed especially for them.  But as they will tell you, that takes “WORK”!  I should know because I’ve done the work and I continue to do the work.

work3It would be nice if we could set the boundary one time and be done with it like a dependable alarm clock that has been pre-set to go off.  Just remember, when it’s automatic, it requires little effort on your part and remember,

little work yields little crop.

Your ability to set healthy boundaries in all areas of your life will not only necessitate consistent effort on your part, but it will equip you to handle situations that have an opportunity to impede on your progression or forward movement towards the goals that you have set for yourself.

So what commitment have you made

to setting healthy boundaries in each area of your life?  Most importantly, how much effort are you willing to put into it?  Start by completing this assessment so that you can begin to understand where you are and what you may need to do in getting you to the place where you are free to remove obstacles that may be standing in the pathway to your forward progression.

Are you Ready?

Are you Ready


Are You READY to Do the Work?

Participate in a Market Research Study for Women on the Need for Boundaries by completing the form below.  

This is a 50-minute [Complimentary]  Market Research Interview over the phone with me. I will help you to decide if you are ready to “do the work” it takes to begin setting healthy boundaries.


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