There are times when we all experience feelings of loneliness.
Those times when we feel extremely alone. It is during those times of loneliness when we believe no one understands all that we are going through. I know, I’ve been there.
Just last week, I had a conversation with a friend who was feeling lonely. She called me because she knew I would help her through her feelings of loneliness. She stated, “I needed to talk to someone who knows me. Someone who understands me.” This touched my heart, knowing that she chose me to confide in. However, it also caused me to consider the number of people who need to talk to someone. Someone who really understands them.
My friend was correct. She and I have been friends for over 20 years. I have been with her through some very difficult times. I have also been with her to experience her joys. After all this time, I understand how she thinks, what makes her cry and what makes her feel empowered. With this history between us, it’s natural for her to come to me to relieve her sense of loneliness. But what happens when I’m not around?
Who Do You Turn To?
What if I wasn’t available to take her call? What steps could she take to receive the same result, if not even a better one? I was happy to end the conversation knowing she felt better, more empowered. After all, nothing brings me more joy knowing that God is working through me to be a blessing to others.
As I stated earlier, I have experienced loneliness more times that I can count. The difference is, I have someone I can talk to who is always available to me. Someone who is never too busy to confide in. This is someone who will not only listen, but will comfort as well as guide me out of my loneliness. Because I trust this person, I never have to stay in that place where I don’t want to be.
WHO IS THIS PERSON?
Wouldn’t it be nice to have someone like this in your life?
You do. That person is YOU!
Loneliness is a state that can be eliminated when we take the time to journal. It is through the practice of journaling that you dialog with someone who cares most about you.
Someone who knows you better than anyone else. Who knows you better than you?
Whenever I have a conversation with someone about journaling, they pause. The main reason they pause is because they never considered journaling as a way to escape from loneliness.
If this is you, let me give you a few examples of how your alternative methods of dealing with loneliness has not worked:
You reach out to a friend. After pouring your heart out to them, they begin telling you about their problems. How did that make you feel?
You tell someone about your frustrations and they change the subject. Did you feel any better? Were you still lonely?
You communicate your frustrations to someone and they attempt to solve the problem for you. All you wanted them to do was listen.
You confide in someone who in turn shares your private information with someone else.
You pour your heart out to someone who tells you to “get over it and move on.” I bet you feel better then don’t you?
The problem when we choose to confide in someone else is we take the chance of feeling worse. Worse than we did when we first reached out to them.
Taking the time to journal ensures that:
You have a dedicated ear. Someone who cares enough about you to focus on your needs.
You are confiding in someone who really wants to hear what you have to say.
Your deepest concerns are heard. This allows you to work through to resolve at your pace.
What you share goes no further than where you want it to.
You have someone who understands. Someone who doesn’t just blow you off because of their own agenda. Your agenda is their agenda.
Because of this, you will get to resolve for whatever emotion you are facing. It could be loneliness, frustration, anger, disappointment or even confusion. Whatever it is, your journal becomes your confidant, your ally and your partner in bringing you to resolve.
During my conversation with my friend of 20 years, I interrupted her and asked, “Have you considered journaling this?” Her moment of silence gave me the answer I was looking for.
I proceeded to share with her the journaling style I knew would help her with her dilemma. This style was proprioceptive journaling.
This is one of the journaling styles I explain in my Journaling Workshops.
It is one of the many styles that prompts you to work through issues without relying on anyone else.
Let’s be honest, not everyone wants to participate in our “pity party”. Sometimes, we have to attend that party with ourselves and no one else.
When we embrace the practice of journaling, we find out who we really are. We discover what we are capable of. Most importantly, we learn to value our ability to work through issues independent of others.
I encourage you to learn more about how this tool can help you in your times of loneliness. The revelations uncovered will help you to overcome every challenge you face.
I am conducting a 6-week Journaling Course that begins in February.
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If these results would benefit you, let’s work together and begin your journaling journey.